Stop Comparing, You Are Enough
I'm Guilty! Are you?
I think in everyone's life we are guilty of comparing our own lives to others. Especially in the world of social media we are constantly flooded with images of people's 'perfect' lives. I mean 'perfect' in a sarcastic tone of course. The images you see on Facebook or Instagram are a single moment that could be real or fake. How many pictures have we had to take to over the years whether at a family gathering or anywhere else after a heated argument or after our children just struck our last nerve. I think we all remember at least one photo that was 100% faked and we weren't really as happy as we may of seemed. If I have done it, so have you, and so have so many others who post happy go lucky pictures on their pages.
Here's the thing. Comparing yourself to others is self destructive! Why make yourself feel awful because you aren't a certain weight, or don't have the car, house, spouse like someone else. Or maybe you do doTERRA like me and you compare yourself to someone who started the business after you and moved up ranks before you! Let me tell you I am guilty of that. I let it bother me so much that I questioned the value I bring to what I do. We are perfect and neither is everyone else. We each bring something different to this world and there will never be another 'me', just like there will never be another 'you'.
So I say 'fuck it!' Screw all the comparing and learn to fall in love with you and accept what you have and let things happen the way they are meant to happen. We each have a different purpose to lead. Whether you know yours just know you have one. Just be you!
Here are a few ways you can begin loving and accepting yourself and your life!
1. Practice gratitude daily
I have a jar on my desk. I write what I am thankful/grateful for each day. Fold the paper and place in the jar and re-read it on New Year's Eve to reflect back on my year
2. Self Development
If you are not growing as a person, you are not living. You must work on self development daily. Whether you read or listen to a book. Listen to podcasts. Do something to improve you and make you feel better about you! There are so many free podcasts you can do and also so many free webinars you can sign up for. There are endless websites you can visit. Self development will be a huge step in feeling fulfilled and every time you finish a book or whatever form of training you will boosts your confidence and self acceptance.
3. Be Still
There is something to be said about meditating. Trust me I wasn't sure about it at first either. I thought to myself I don't even know how to do this. The best mediation I have found works for me is guided meditations. There are free apps out there you can download on your phone, computer or tablet. Basically a guided meditation you can pick your theme and it helps guide your thoughts. You don't have to meditate long. You can do it for five minutes or three hours. The choice is yours!
4. Control Your Self Talk
The person you talk to the most in a day is YOU!. Our brains are constantly chattering to us and we are constantly thinking. Be mindful of your thoughts. For example let's say you are getting dressed in the morning and you put on your favorite shirt but then you catch a glimpse of yourself sideways in a store window your first thought could be 'Damn my ass looks big in this shirt!'. meanwhile in the morning that same shirt looked great on you. Your self talk can be your biggest self confidence destroyer. We tend to be harder on ourselves more than anyone else is on us. We are out biggest critic.
So try to consciously correct yourself when negative talk happens and turn your thoughts from negative to positive thoughts about yourself.
5. Give Back Without Expecting Anything Back
There is always someone who has less than you do right now. GIVE BACK! Clean out your closest, volunteer somewhere. Helping others will help you realize you truly do have enough. Offer your time to help someone, anyone. Giving back will not only make you feel good but it helps you know you matter and you helping others matter. Heck...if you love baking maybe post videos of you baking your favorite recipes and share that with others. If you love reading maybe volunteer at a library or old folks home to read to either kids or seniors. There is so much you can do to give back. You just need to do it.
So the best thing you can do is to be YOU. Stop comparing yourself to other people because you truly don't know the struggles they face or how good or bad their lives truly are. We can all display the life we want others to see. All happy and living the best life but just know the pictures you see are sometimes staged and other times genuine. But one thing is for you those pictures are not your life and only you can determine your now, and future.
Accept who you, change what you don't like about yourself, and know through it all only you can be you so love yourself no matter what!
My name is Gloria Mattia. I'm a Wellness Advocate, single mother of one and on a journey for better health and well being. Over the course of the last while I have been transforming my life one day at a time into the life I want. "The best way to predict your future is to create it. Abraham Lincoln"